|Ask yourself: Do I have the following characteristics?
Parenting a Special Needs Child:
- Belief in adoption and ability to commit
- Patience and perseverance
- Good sense of humor and talent for keeping life in perspective
- Ability to roll with unexpected changes, stresses, and challenges
- Ability to deal with rejection and not take it personally
- Ability to accept without judging and love unconditionally
- Tolerance and understanding of your child's conflicting feelings and your own Awareness that healing doesn't come quickly, not all wounds can be healed, and your child may not attach to your family
- Strength to be consistent and set limits
- Willingness to learn new parenting techniques and advocate for your children's educational and medical needs
After determining that you have the necessary qualities to make an unconditional commitment to a child, you should evaluate your desire and ability to successfully parent a child or children who have troubling pasts and uncertain futures. Many of the children featured on this website have not received the kind of early care that children need to develop a strong sense of security, trust, and self-esteem. The key to a successful adoption is patience, structure, consistency, and commitment.
Fortunately, through therapy, medication, and consistent care, children can find ways to overcome or at least cope with many of their challenges.
Almost every child will put his or her new adoptive parent through a period of testing to see if the parents are truly committed. During this time it is important that you do not revoke or threaten to revoke your commitment to the child. Getting support from other families who have dealt with some of the same challenges can help.